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Sunday, August 9, 2009

My straight boyfriend sucking cock

In the past few weeks, I’ve been posting a lot about other feminist pornographers’ erotic writing – dirty stories I admire and lust over. Today I debut my own X-rated fiction – something I’ve written recently. Inspired by all my posting about others’ writing, I had a burst of creativity and wrote my second X-rated story ever. I’ll post my first X-rated story sometime, too, and I hope to post my third, my fourth, and on and on, if and when I get inspired to do more X-rated creative writing. Stay tuned.

I had put some time into writing my craigslist ad. I was definitely looking for something specific.

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I was the W in the threeway I had in mind, but I wasn’t interested in having two cocks in me. My ad read, “Petite curvaceous blond girl seeks gay guy to help me take advantage of and turn the tables on my tall handsome dominant and *straight* boyfriend. I’ve used my womanly wiles to take power in our relationship – he’s ready and willing to do anything I want. What do I want? To watch him suck and gag on a nice hard cock the way he’s always made me suck and gag on him. Also, I plan to participate by pounding his ass with my strap-on so he is filled on both ends. Send a picture and description if you’re interested in seeing ours and meeting up.”

I had some more specifics in mind for the guy who’d be perfect for us. Ideally, I wanted someone who reminded me of my boyfriend. I have a thing in general for threeways in which the same-sex pair look alike. Whether we’re talking about an MWM, a WWM, an MMW, etc., I always want the two Ms and the two Ws to be of similar heights, similar body types, similar sizes, and/or similar coloring. I guess I like it when things match. I also thought that a guy who resembled B would be perfect for keeping B on the edge. B might find some comfort in interacting with a guy whose body and personality was familiar, but at the same time, B is really masculine – so he would be appropriately intimidated by any guy who looked and acted as dominantly as B normally does. Yet, I also wanted to remain open to other possibilities besides my ideal B-look-alike – hence, I didn’t put those specifics in my ad.

I was so excited when I got my first reply, but that first guy’s picture revealed a dealbreaker – a beard and mustache. It’s exceedingly rare that I like facial hair, and I didn’t like this guy’s, so I sent a polite no thank you to guy number one. Guy number two was a real disappointment. His email looked like some stock wording he sends to any and all craigslist ads posted by women – it was clear he was trying to get pussy, so the jerk must not have even read my ad. But with the third guy, I got lucky. He said he was 6 feet tall, 195 lbs and totally psyched about topping my man with me. The size and build was a nice match to B’s and the guy’s picture was way cute, even though his coloring wasn’t anything like B’s. I sent him our picture back – a nice, sweet picture of B and me together – you’d never guess that I was into doing such wicked things to B as arranging his first cock-sucking. I also asked John if he’d like to meet up at one of the many watering holes in my neighborhood, to see if we clicked as co-tops. Well, long story short, John was absolutely charming and sexy at the bar. It was clear that he’d be confident and dominant without taking over. I definitely wanted a co-top who’d follow my lead with B, who’d respect who was really in charge in our threeway – ME! So, John and I made plans that B and I would show him a little hospitality the next night at my place.

The next day, I really wanted B in a good submissive state before John’s arrival. I didn’t want any backtalk or resistance when John arrived, ready to receive an enthusiastic and eager cock-sucking from my newbie boyfriend.

So I started by reminding B how it was that I had him under my control. I reminded him that it was a big mistake when he let me tie him up early on in our relationship. I had put him in a pair of my panties and my pink triangle top, complete with falsies, to give him the appearance of having tits. Then when he was tied down, with no chance to snatch my camera away, I took a bunch of incriminating pictures. In the pictures, he is in sexual heaven and hard as a rock while wearing my underthings. I keep those pictures ready to email to all his friends and post online at any moment. I suppose B could choose to defy my orders, but it would come with some seriously embarrassing consequences. Thus far, the threat of his pictures being blasted across the internet has kept him in line.

Next, I gave B a good paddling. I started with a few light warm-up strokes before telling him to count down from 15. I’m in good shape but my upper body is still small and weak compared to a man’s, so luckily, the paddle makes up for my female limitations in strength. Even light stokes with that paddle hurt like hell. I delivered those 15 strokes with as much force as I’m capable of, so I know they hurt bad, but B had gotten good at counting without any crying out. With the last stroke, I took him in my arms and told him how proud I was that he’d taken that tough paddling. He was getting really good at taking the paddle hard without any complaint. I let him lick my ass and pussy next, while I sucked on his super hard cock. B is long and thick so it’s not easy to suck him, but I wanted him nice and compliant when John arrived. B must have sensed that something was up because I was taking him much deeper in my mouth and putting myself out much more than I usually did on other occasions when I exercised the power of the incriminating pictures over him. Inbetween his delicious licks of my ass and tongue flicks on my clit, he kept commenting about how generous I was being while sucking him. I told him not to worry – he’d be repaying the favor I was doing, by doing something new to please me later that night. He sounded worried about what that would be, and he was right to be worried. I was springing John on B, without B having any inkling of my plan for him to learn how to suck cock himself.

By the time John arrived, B was in the most submissive and aroused state I’d ever gotten him to – the paddling combined with bringing him to the edge of orgasm, without letting him come, had him all worked up and eager to please. It was such a change from his normal dominant demeanor, which I generally let him get away with. He’d paddled me and shoved his cock deep down my throat, pussy and ass way more often than I used the pictures to take control. But when I did take control, I would always give him some real payback with the paddle and my strap-on. This time, the payback would be even better – sucking real cock, not just a strap-on dong. I couldn’t wait.

Finally, there was a knock at the door, and I got up from the couch. B stood up, too, but I told him to just wait, right where he was. When I let in this tall good-looking fellow, that’s when B’s eyes got really wide. John and I shook hands, and I asked him if he’d had any trouble finding the place. B was still standing there, almost entirely nude (wearing nothing but my pink collar), but had put his hands over his private parts – out of embarrassment from being naked in front of a complete stranger, I suppose. I said, “Where are your manners? Introduce yourself.” B extended a hand and nervously gave his name. John shook it but turned to me immediately, “Oh, he’s a cute one. Thank you for sharing him.”

I was very pleased that John appeared hard in his pants already.

I told B, “Well, don’t just stand there. Please take our guest back to the bedroom and get ready to show him a good time. You’ll be learning to suck cock for me tonight.”

B looked at me helplessly for a moment, so I walked over and stood on my tiptoes to kiss him. But before I did, I looked in his eyes and said sweetly, “Remember those pictures.” This was the
moment of truth – was he finally going to balk? Which fate was worse – forced sucking of a real cock, or the probability that I’d really do it – that I’d really let everyone and their mothers see him getting off while wearing women’s underwear? I could see the struggle to decide going on inside him. Then he calmed down, lowered his eyes and said, “John, if you would, please follow me, and I’ll do anything to you that Marilyn asks.”

I was so happy that he made the right decision. He guessed right – he knew I wasn’t bluffing. If he’d resisted and refused, I would have totally posted those pictures everywhere I could think of.

John undressed and laid back on the bed, revealing a nice solid 5 inches of thick cock. That’d be good for B – it would be tough for him to take but I thought he’d be able to take the entire 5 inches down his throat. John was relaxed, smirking, obviously enjoying B’s apprehension.

“Girlie, what have you done to get this boy to agree to suck cock for you? He is clearly humiliated and scared out of his mind right now, huh?”

I couldn’t help but giggle and give B a swat on his ass. “Oh, I’ve got some good blackmail material on him.”

I turned again towards B, “Well … get to it.”

B crawled onto the bed and towards John’s cock. One last look at me, as if he was about to plead mercy from me and beg for me to stop him from going down on another guy, but I was so pleased, he knew he had no choice. B was a natural – he took only an inch into his mouth at first, but he had his lips nice and tight, and John exhaled in pleasure. I got my strap-on out while B was taking John’s cock deeper and deeper with each stroke. I thought about being a bit merciful and using one of my smaller dongs, but then I thought, “Nah, he needs to take the huge dong tonight.” B’s mouth is soft and strong – kissing him is incredible, so I knew that B’s mouth would feel really good to John. I have to admit, though, that I was really impressed by B taking John’s full cock so quickly. And the sight was such a turn-on. I couldn’t wait to push into B’s ass and start riding him so that my clit would rub against the harness. I watched B’s head bob up and down on John, and then I watched John moaning and breathing heavy with his mouth sprawled open and his eyes locked on B, and then I went back to watching B’s bobbing head. I knew that John would love the sight of B sucking him, too – B has a very handsome face and no matter what he was feeling at the moment – whether he was hating this homosexual act or secretly enjoying being forced to suck cock, I knew B would look like the sweetest puppy dog if he looked up at John for even one moment. B just can’t help but look that way from that position.

Before I entered B’s ass, I also got out my camera. This moment needed to be preserved – and used against B, to help keep him under control in the future. I snapped a few pictures of my view – my dong resting on top of B’s ass, B’s head on top of John’s groin – but I had assured John the night before that I wouldn’t take any pictures of his face, and of course, I was only getting the back of B’s head in the frame, so the images I was capturing weren’t very incriminating – it was a little hard to tell what was going on. John though, right on cue, peeked up at me, flashed a wicked little smile and motioned for me to pass the camera over to him. I was thrilled when he took a few of B’s face on his cock – now those would be incriminating for B!

When I entered B’s ass, John gave me a little nod of approval but he stayed pretty focused on B – at least until I started really giving it to B. I started pumping B so hard that he was being jolted further down onto John’s cock with each stroke. At one point, I was moaning and pumping so fast that John looked up at me and said, “Fuck dude, she’s pounding you so hard her tits are swinging and jiggling all over the place. I wish I could ride your ass like that.” Then he looked back at B and moaned again, “Mmmmmm, fuuuuck. Marilyn, your boyfriend is fucking good at sucking cock.” I was in such ecstasy, still watching B between John’s legs, pounding B hard, not worrying about how painful it must be for him to take it in his ass and his mouth at the same time – I was losing myself in the moment and the pleasure of the harness on my clit – enjoying the tingles and shudders throughout my body. John was getting all sweaty and close, and then he went over the edge. Cum poured into my boyfriend’s throat – yummy! John laid there for a moment, even more relaxed than before, and all smiles while I eased the pace a bit on B’s ass. Then John perked up, “Well, thank you both. I’d better be going. If you think you’d ever like me to fuck B’s ass, Marilyn, please do let me know.”

I thought I would like that sometime, but that night, B’s ass was all mine.

POSTED BY Marilyn C. AT 11:30 am 7 comments
LABELS: X-rated stories

Sunday, August 2, 2009

Lifted, separated, hanging tits





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LABELS: Nudie pictures

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Feminist Erotica II

A couple weeks ago, I wrote about my ambitions to post both my true and fictional dirty stories about M. But I’m insecure about my fiction-writing, so I’ve decided to post about a couple other writers’ feminist erotica before subjecting you all to my own.

I already wrote about I.G. Frederick’s X-rated stories. Today, I treat you to a link to the Office Slut series on long-distance sub, a blog by a fellow feminist submissive. The first story in the series is “Sales Report,” and this just may be THE HOTTEST STORY EVER.

Well, at least, in my judgment of what’s hot. It features all sorts of elements that are common in my own masturbatory fantasies – a single naked woman in a room full of well-dressed men (think suits and ties), a gang bang, and most important, the absurd fantasy of the sex secretary – the female employee whose main responsibility is to be sexually available at all times and occasionally do a little light typing – the lady who greets appropriately attired customers, co-workers and clients in lingerie or her birthday suit and offers them a good fuck instead of coffee. I’ve fantasized about being bent over some corporate desk with my lacy panties around my ankles countless times, so when “Sales Report” describes Lyn as naked in stilettos and surrounded by men talking business, I got very wet.

But lyn, the author of long-distance sub, doesn’t just write X-rated stories about fictional Lyn, the Office Slut. I’ve discovered – after reading more of her blog and corresponding with her in order to write this post – that she and I have a lot in common. Aspects of her real life (a lifelong identity as feminist; a degree in women’s studies, hers a major, mine a minor; exploration of her submissive sexuality) and her posts (true tales of her sexual experiences with her Dom, such as Fun and Games , thoughts about her weight loss, her body, her appearance and her feminism, such as Whose Body) are quite similar to my own. The similarity between our blogs doesn’t stop there. We also have an exhibitionist streak in common. We both post erotic pictures of ourselves … some of lyn’s pictures are more fashion-oriented and erotic like this one from her post entitled Pretty:
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But most are full-on explicit nudie pics like this one from Purple Passion:

Well, of course, I had to email lyn and tell her that I’d be posting about the Office Slut stories and what I find feminist about them. And then I asked her my question – does she consider herself a feminist pornographer? Here’s her reply:

Thank you! i’m totally tickled that you want to link to the stories, and that you find them feminist – that rocks. Because my vision for Lyn is really all about empowerment, and i’m thrilled that comes through.

As for your question… it’s really interesting that you should ask that right now. In the middle of our most recent photo shoot, it suddenly occurred to me that my Master and i were part of the Internet porn industry. That this label – pornographer – could be applied to me. We’ve been taking and posting explicit pictures for a couple of years now, so it’s not new, but it was the first time i’ve thought about it in those terms. So to answer half your question, yes, i do consider myself a pornographer. As to the feminist part – hell yeah! i’ve been a feminist my whole life, even majored in women’s studies in college. Occasionally my particular brand of submission causes me some cognitive dissonance, because of the strong focus on creating and maintaining a traditional feminine appearance. But i feel more connected to and in touch with my body now than i ever did when i was a fat, short-haired, flannel-shirted bi-dyke in college. And happy and content about both that body, and the way in which it (and i) move through and interact with the world. i am me in a way that i wasn’t then. My submission makes me happy. Stronger. Focused. My feminism, and my belief in a woman’s right to choose her own path, is what allows me to choose this one, and find empowerment and strength there.

So what do I find feminist about these stories? That’s a good question, because on the surface, these stories are not at all feminist. They are set in an old boy’s club – an office where the people in power are men, and the woman is primarily a sex object.

How do I reconcile my own potential for cognitive dissonance between my feminism and my sexuality? How do I reconcile the apparent contradiction between my desire for women’s equality in the boardroom and my love of stories like lyn’s?

I’ll tell you how: shameless hunger for cock.

Lyn, the fictional office slut, hungers for cock the way a man hungers for pussy. Personally, I find shamelessness about sexual desires to be a much more important feminist goal than breaking the glass ceiling. Freedom to explore sexuality in one’s personal life is extremely important to me. And so I proudly declare my fantasies about slutting myself out in an office setting. I mean – come on – how many men would jump at the chance to be a professional pussy-eater and the center of attention in a roomful of horny women? Well, I, too, love the idea of commanding the attention of lots of cocks, and so does Lyn.

But there’s something else about lyn and her Master and her blog that is extremely feminist to me. That cognitive dissonance she experiences between her traditionally feminine appearance and her politics. I have no problem with that. Not in her, and not in myself. I find her very feminine appearance and her nudie pictures to be the most feminist thing about her and her blog. She may have gotten closer to the pornographic ideal by losing weight and getting acrylic nails and waxing her pussy at her Master’s “command,” but hers is a very real body, a very adult body. At various times throughout her blog, we see brown moles dotting her creamy white legs like stars in the sky and silvery stretchmarks crossing her small round belly like lightening bolts – all surrounding her pretty pink hairless pussy. Mainstream pornography and fashion magazines would photoshop out the brown and silver and just leave the white and pink. So I love it that lyn and her Master reject that invented visual fantasy in favor of sexy images of reality. I love it when a fellow formerly fat woman with stretchmarks and moles asserts her right to be feminine, sexual and objectified. And I love it even more that her man lusts for her real body and takes all these sexy pictures of it. That’s a man who deserves a feminist’s sexual submission.

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LABELS: M, X-rated stories

Sunday, July 19, 2009

Feminist Spread

POSTED BY Marilyn C. AT 11:30 am 4 comments
LABELS: Nudie pictures

Sunday, July 12, 2009

Feminist erotica – I.G. Frederick

I plan to post at least one X-rated story I’ve written. I may only post one because thus far in my life, I’ve only written one. My one story thus far features M, the third of the three guys I’m focusing on in my collection of vignettes about sexuality and body image in my personal relationships. I wrote up this story when I was struggling to reconcile M’s hold on my erotic imagination vs. the reality of our relationship. I was totally into him and the promise of adventure held in our very dirty and shared sexual desires. But the reality was that we had a couple dates, slept together once, and then spent months in a bizarre internet-sexting relationship that goaded my body politics and frustrations with the male gaze, while also stringing me along, hoping that he would resume a real-life BDSM relationship with me.

But the M stories – both the true story of internet-subbing to M, and the fictional story of drinking M’s cum out of a cup – needs to wait for another Sunday. Before I post my meager attempt at writing a fictional/fictionalized dirty story, I feel it’s my responsibility to post about some real feminist erotica. So this week, I’m posting about I.G. Frederick. And in a couple weeks, I’ll be posting about one of my other favorite X-rated story writers.

As I did in my post from a few weeks ago about my friend’s kick-ass bondage porn site (Captive Cuties Online), I must disclose a conflict of interest about I.G. She is a friend. But I think my recommendation of and reflection on her erotic writing benefits from our personal interactions. Whenever I’ve hung out with her, she has always been full of life, spirit and sex-positivity. And the same qualities come out in her erotic writing.

I.G. writes novels and short stories, which you can find out more about on her web site: eroticawriter.net. I adore her short stories “Honeymoon” and “Benjamin” – they are both prime examples of feminist porn, in my opinion. Dirty and explicit – they are deliciously X-rated and pornographic, even if we never see anything but imaginary naked flesh because all the nudity and fucking is described in words. And they are definitely my kind of feminism – I.G. cleverly includes feminist personal /political issues in a positive and entertaining way. “Honeymoon” is a story inspired by my number one feminist personal/political obsession: the relationship between women’s appearances and people’s sexuality … or ultimately, in the case of Allison, the fictional narrator of the story, the lack of relationship between her apparently average appearance and the sexual desire her new, handsome husband and his gorgeous swinger friends have for her. I’m a sucker for a story that not only makes my clit throb but also artfully makes the point that sex appeal is in the eye of the beholder.

And “Benjamin” – well, that story appeals to my love of gender role reversals and romance. Submissive man. Dominant woman. Obstacles to love. Steamy sex scenes in which his cock doesn’t penetrate her. Nope, her pussy is most definitely in charge, mounting and taking him passionately.

So I consider I.G. to be a fellow feminist pornographer. But does she consider herself to be one?

I emailed I.G. a few weeks ago, letting her know I was working on a post about her work. In the email, I said:

I have an interview question for you … no right or wrong answer on this one … you can take the question seriously if you’d like, you can answer simply with a yes or no, or you can answer at length. But first and foremost, I ask it because I consider it a fun question to fit the theme of my site. Do you consider yourself a feminist pornographer?

Her initial response was excellent:

I would be happy to answer the question seriously, IF I knew what you considered the definition of feminist pornographer?

Getting me to think through my own identity more deeply – I.G. is a sharp cookie.

I replied:

Oooh, this is good already. On the one hand, I want to reply by saying who cares what I think the definition is. In a post about your writing, your definition is what really matters.

But, that would probably be annoying for me to stop there. I have a really broad definition. Or perhaps it would be more correct to say I have no definition at all. I think “pornography” can be a whole lot more than naked pictures — erotica, dirty stories, X-rated writing can be called pornography, even if we first think of images when we think of porn — and by deduction, a writer could be a pornographer. In my view, identifying as a feminist is like Dossie Easton’s and Janet Hardy’s discussion of identifying as a top or a bottom or a submissive or a dominant or whatever — you get to decide your identity. No one else gets to tell you you’re not a real top because you don’t do X. No one else gets to tell you that you are or are not a feminist.

Well, I.G. liked my “definition” and my original question a lot – I.G. said, “I had to think about your question, which makes me glad you asked it. I’ve always taken pride in my feminism. It’s time I took pride in pornography as well.” She liked it so much that she wanted to write about the question properly … in a post of her own. What an honor! To have inspired a thoughtful, interesting and well-researched post by a writer I admire. I.G. reveals that she does consider herself a feminist pornographer, which is way cool. But even cooler … I.G. delves into a bunch of fundamental issues about feminism and pornography that I have neglected in my own writing. And she does a much better job than I would have at laying out these fundamentals. Super cool. Now I don’t have to sweat over a post about those core issues between feminism and pornography and I don’t have to fret about living up to my promise of X-rated stories at feministpornographer.com – I can just point you to I.G.’s blog and her feminist pornography.

POSTED BY Marilyn C. AT 11:30 am No comments
LABELS: M, X-rated stories

Sunday, July 5, 2009

Feminist nude

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LABELS: Nudie pictures

Sunday, June 28, 2009

Vacation from feminist porn

Feminist Pornographer is on vacation again — taking some time out from nudie pictures and writing about pornographic personal politics. Next week, expect another nudie picture or collage. And the week after that, I hope to post about a couple of my favorite dirty story writers. I’m working on extracting answers from them to the question that’s always on my mind about cool folks creating porn and erotica: do you consider yourself a feminist pornographer?

POSTED BY Marilyn C. AT 11:30 am 2 comments
LABELS: X-rated stories

Sunday, June 21, 2009

More feminist ass

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LABELS: Nudie pictures

Sunday, June 14, 2009

Captive Cuties Online

Did any of you notice when I added the links to Captive Cuties Online a few weeks ago? I had to link to this site because it combines three things I love. Diverse beauty. Objectification of women. And rope bondage.

Oh, and well, it also happens to be run by a friend of mine, Aaron. So I suppose our friendship may create a bit of conflict of interest in this review. But honestly, there’s a more fundamental reason why I’m unabashedly biased towards this site … a much more selfish reason for my pro-CCO stance.

Captive Cuties Online features several models with my favorite kind of tits. What are my favorite kind of tits? My kind of tits. By which I mean tits that literally look like my own.

Tits that hang.

Tits that sag.

Tits like Kat’s:

Or Elizabeth’s:

Or Melody’s:

But as I said, I like diversity so, really, I enjoy looking at Racoon’s young perky tits on her petite frame and Scarlet’s tiny tits on her athletic body just as much:

I also love the way Aaron writes about the models – he uses a nice mix of objectification and appreciation of their natural looks. And his blurbs often capture the essence of what I love about rope bondage. One of my favorite examples is his writing about Cat A Lyst, another busty gal with hanging titties:

One of Aaron’s blurbs about Cat A Lyst is:

Big tits, red hair, a gorgeous look and a love of rope bondage – Sounds like a great Captive Cutie to me! I was lucky enough to get to shoot Cat A Lyst while she was in town from Chicago, and what a great submissive model she is to work for. This curvy babe told me she liked to be tied tight, and I started her first set by stripping her down to just a garter and stockings. Of course, a rack like that demands a chest harness, not to mention giving me the opportunity to focus on those lovely breasts. Since this sexy girl needs some restraint, I added a frog tie on her legs and secured her wrists to them.

Something about a guy referring to a girl’s chest as a rack really turns me on.

And did you notice Aaron’s great rigging in those shots? He does some nice rope work on these gals.

When I told Aaron that I wanted to do a post about his site, I told him that I had an interview question. I asked him whether he considers himself a feminist. He said yes, and then he promised me a longer answer. I found Aaron’s long answer to be a treat to read. I hope you do, too.

I find it very interesting that you use the term “objectifying” often in your writing, and discuss both objectifying women, specifically in the context of pornography, but also in general, as well as your enjoyment of being objectified. I really think that the entire concept of sexually objectifying ~anyone~, male or female (although in light of the current topic of feminism and simply ease of writing, I’ll write from here just in the feminine form) has gotten a bad rap. Every person has multiple aspects to their personality, and essentially to their very being, and different ways in which they interact with other people, and even ways in which they interact with the same people in different situations. Sexuality is most certainly one of those; it’s intertwined with everything else, and in some interactions it is part of a mix; in others, it is entirely the focus. There is a sexual being part of each person, just as there is a sense of humor, intellectualism, creativity, and all the other aspects of their personality. Particularly with women, sexuality is displayed to and perceived by men (and other women) via the physical, the shape of the body but also in the way you move, your reactions, the way you look at me, touch me, interact with me… etc.

When I’m with a lover for sex, BDSM or best of all, both, my focus on you (and I’m using the second person form for the sake colloquialism, convenience, and unabashed optimism) is carnal, primal and entirely on your body, your sexual reactions. You are objectified. That does not mean that outside of that situation I don’t see the other sides of you and respect and appreciate your love of art, opinions on politics, or sense of humor, but at that moment, those are irrelevant. When you’re tightly bound, sweating and helpless with my hands pulling your hair as I roughly take you from behind, I’m certainly not being aroused by your appreciation of Sartre.

For sexual gratification, objectifying your partner is what it is all about. Other facets of attraction can play into that, and in fact can feed into that physical attraction, but it is still the physical. I’m still physically using you for sexual gratification, and enjoying seeing you react, and I also receive gratification from your objectification of me. At that moment, it is irrelevant to how I look at you as a person in other arenas.

The problem comes from those who ~only~ view women as sexual objects. Essentially, the cliched phrase of “a time and place for everything” comes into play. So ultimately, yes, I objectify women, both when I’m with you sexually, and when I look at porn, or sometimes even looking at a hot woman at the grocery store. But I’m fully aware that there is more to each individual woman than just your physical appeal and sexual use toward my gratification. However, feeling comfortable with the balance and knowing when it’s appropriate to objectify you and when not to, and always being aware of, interested in, and respectful of all of those aspects, I can guiltlessly enjoy that carnal gratification and still consider myself a feminist.

Now, coming to Captive Cuties…I’ve been actively involved in BDSM for about a decade now, and I have really widely varied tastes. Sometimes I like simple vanilla sex, sometimes I like mild, playful bondage and play, but I also have a strong sadistic side, and I like to do very intense, brutal scenes. When I am doing an intense scene it can be very raw, emotional and dark. Super restrictive bondage, painful activities, from harsh clamps, caning, etc. – I’m sure you can imagine any number of things. It’s not unusual for subs to scream and cry and whimper. But at the core of it, there’s an interactive dynamic of not just consent, but more than that. I play with people who enjoy enduring the things I like to do, so when we connect and do intense scenes, the energy of you wanting and deep down enjoying what I’m doing is there, feeding the scene. It is an interactive energy that is present to the participants.

However, when you represent that in porn, in images, that connection is harder to make. It is really personal and directly between the people in the scene. You can sense some of it in some video scenes, but it usually is quite easily lost in still photography. Oh, for those of us “initiated”, those into BDSM and who have an understanding, we can sense and see some of that, but to th
e lay person, it comes across much more as simply women in helpless, suffering positions. It is likely exciting for the misogynists, but off-putting or disturbing for the lay person, even those with some interest in softer bondage and kink.

My intent is to portray women enjoying being in bondage and participating in kinkier activities. To do this without blurring the lines and mixing messages, it seems like the best way to do that is through the glamour bondage genre, showing lovely women of all shapes and sizes in various types of bondage, and showing them having fun, with no confusion as to their enthusiasm and enjoyment of the activity. I want to show that bondage and BDSM (particularly Mdom/fsub) is not all about men subjugating women, but something that is enjoyable and even empowering to the female participants as well.

I love it — Aaron is a fellow feminist pornographer.

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Sunday, June 7, 2009

Battered Feminist

POSTED BY Marilyn C. AT 11:00 am 1 comment
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